All the categories mentioned in the previous post are unique in their own right but my most concern is the last category as most people fall in this category times without number. I happen to be in this category that has been termed “realistic” and that has shown to limit potentials from seeing the light of day in numerous fields.
I wouldn’t bore you with the first three categories because frankly they seem self-explanatory but I would do well to explain the last category as that is where the issue of my original point of happiness in career choices come in.
So repeating my thought “most critical of them all is the category of people that have interests and are sure of what they want to do but are limited by different forces around (for example, family, reality, pay, past practices and image of the profession amongst others) and as such settle for either what they are being given or what seems more realistic.” Why you may ask well I’ll tell you.
Take for instance, a character named Peter has a dream of becoming an actor or say a performing artist but has limited options because his parents are bent on him attending college and studying something that would profit the family by getting a good job and in turn training the rest of his siblings through school. Peter gets direct financial support from his parents and is the first child out of four siblings. Peter’s family are not one to be told about literary arts because they feel it is for people who do not work hard. So Peter due to fear and pressure then decides to read engineering in college (because he is a ‘man’ and because it’s a suitable job choice) and eventually graduates from college as an engineer. He then gets the job, hates every minute of it but comforts himself with the fact that the job would eventually pay his bills and besides realistically speaking he wasn’t sure he was going to make that much if was a performing artist.
- Now, for those of you that feel Peter had a choice, it is likely not true because different cultures allow and permit different things. Moreover, his tuition and financial expenses were being paid by his parents, so technically his choices were limited.
- Secondly, we find out from the except that peter basically went to school for his family, because his course of study was ‘professional and well-respected’ and because it was going to land him a good job.
- Thirdly, Peter’s parents were not too keen about the arts department and hearing their son was going to venture in that department would have ‘literally’ broken their hearts. Some people might say but they would come to accept it with time. Well, sorry to burst your bubble but sometimes it’s not really that easy when people look up to you as a whole investment.
- Also, note that one thing that was missing was Peter’s happiness. But, he sacrificed his happiness for reality.
At the end of the day, it is possible that these factors were not an issue for Peter at first because what he cared about was doing something he really loved regardless of what it brought home. I could say a solution that might work for some people but either way it’s an opinion worth listening too.
Every parent’s dream is to see their child or children succeed but sometimes they might indirectly enforce their opinions based on the level of power they have over them as is the case of Peter. The suggestion therefore, is for Peter to go to school, get the degree and while working try to pursue his dream now that he is financially independent to do so.
Although this happens to most people always remembering that being happy in your job makes it worth it carries the win. So, even when limited with these forces try to keep your head above the water with a plan B and if that doesn’t work a plan C, D and E until your dream comes to pass. Also, everything in life is about risks and most successful people in the world today did not actualize their dreams within a day. So keep dreaming baby and strive to make that dream work no matter what it takes.
And while you at that always remember that when play becomes work, work becomes play.
Disclaimer: This is not an everyday kind of post so you’d have to be patient while reading this in order for you to grasp the level of intelligence in this piece. You also might not agree with half of the things written here but i am always welcomed to new ideas and shared opinions.
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